Naming Emotions: Why Words Matter for Emotional Regulation 😡

Have you ever felt something so strongly but couldn’t find the words to describe it?

For many neurodivergent individuals, this is a daily experience. Emotions can feel big, overwhelming, or confusing - and when we can’t name them, it’s harder to manage them.

The truth is: naming emotions isn’t about fixing feelings. It’s about understanding them and responding with compassion.

Why Naming Emotions Helps

When we put words to what we feel, something powerful happens:

• It gives the brain clarity and reduces emotional intensity.

• It helps us communicate needs to others.

• It builds self-awareness and resilience.

  
  

For neurodivergent people who may experience emotions more intensely or struggle to express them this skill is especially important. It’s not about being “less emotional.” It’s about having tools to navigate those emotions safely.

Practical Tools to Make It Easier

Here are some supports that can help both adults and children:

Emotion Charts

Simple charts with words and faces can make identifying feelings easier. Place them somewhere visible - like on the fridge or in a classroom.

Feelings Wheel

These expand emotional vocabulary beyond “happy” or “sad.” They help you find more precise words like “frustrated,” “hopeful,” or “overwhelmed.”

Visual Supports

Icons, colours, or emojis can make emotions more concrete for those who think visually.

Tips for Parents and Carers

• Model naming emotions: “I feel frustrated because the traffic is slow.”

• Use everyday moments: Ask, “How do you feel about this?” during play or mealtimes.

• Create a calm space: A sensory corner or quiet zone helps children regulate before talking.

  
  

Strategies for Adults

• Journaling: Write down what you feel and why.

• Check-ins: Pause during the day and ask, “What am I feeling right now?”

• Sensory breaks: Movement, deep pressure, or calming sounds can help before naming emotions.

  
  

The Big Picture

Naming emotions isn’t about changing who you are - it’s about giving yourself the language to understand and respond with kindness. When we name feelings, we take the first step toward emotional regulation and self-compassion.

💬 What helps you name emotions? Share your tips in the comments - we’d love to learn from you!