Opening Presents: Why It Can Be Tricky for Neurodivergent Individuals – and How to Help 🎁

For many people, opening presents is exciting and fun. But for some neurodivergent individuals – including autistic people, people with ADHD, or those with sensory differences – this moment can feel overwhelming or even stressful.

Let’s explore why this happens and share practical ways to make gift-giving a positive experience for everyone.

Why Can Opening Presents Be Difficult?

Opening gifts often comes with big emotions and social expectations. Here are some reasons it might feel hard:

• Sensory Overload

  Bright wrapping paper, loud tearing sounds, and lots of people watching can be overwhelming.

  
  

• Pressure to React

  There’s often an expectation to look excited or say the “right” thing. This can feel like a performance, which is stressful.

  
  

• Managing Disappointment

  If the gift isn’t what they hoped for, masking disappointment can be hard – especially when emotions are intense.

  
  

• Executive Function Challenges

  Waiting for their turn, following social rules, or coping with surprises can be tricky for those who find transitions hard.

  
  

• Anxiety About Surprises

  Not knowing what’s inside can cause worry instead of excitement.

Ways to Support Neurodivergent Individuals

Small changes can make a big difference. Here are some ideas:

1. Prepare Ahead

• Share what to expect: “We’ll open gifts after lunch, and everyone will take turns.”

• If surprises are stressful, consider telling them what the gift is or giving clues.

  
  

2. Create a Calm Space

• Reduce noise and visual clutter.

• Allow them to open gifts in a quieter area if needed.

  
  

3. Offer Choices

• Let them decide when to open their presents – before, during, or after the main celebration.

• Give them the option to open gifts alone if being watched feels uncomfortable.

• Allow them to open gifts at their own pace – no rush or pressure.

  
  

4. Give Permission for Honest Feelings

• Let them know it’s okay to feel however they feel.

• Avoid phrases like “Say thank you!” in the moment – give time to process.

  
  

5. Focus on Connection, Not Performance

• Celebrate the thought behind the gift, not the reaction.

• Use phrases like: “I hope you enjoy this” instead of “Do you love it?”

Remember:

Gift-giving is about care and connection. By reducing pressure and supporting sensory and emotional needs, we make celebrations more inclusive and joyful for everyone.