Tips for a Calm and Joyful Festive Season for Children and Young People 🎄

The festive season can be magical - but it can also feel overwhelming, especially for neurodivergent children and young people. Bright lights, loud music, and changes to routine can bring extra stress.

Here are 10 simple, supportive tips to help make celebrations calmer and more enjoyable for everyone.

1. Keep Some Routine ✅

Holidays often mean changes, but keeping familiar routines where possible can help children feel secure.

Try:

• Sticking to usual mealtimes and bedtime.

• Using a visual schedule to show what’s happening each day.

  
  

2. Prepare for Surprises 🎁

Unexpected events can feel stressful.

Try:

• Talking through plans in advance.

• Showing photos of places you’ll visit.

• Agreeing on a “quiet space” for breaks if things get too busy.

  
  

3. Sensory-Friendly Spaces 🌟

Festive decorations and music can be fun - but also overwhelming.

You can:

• Create a calm corner with soft lighting and favourite items.

• Offer ear defenders or headphones for noisy environments.

• Choose clothing that feels comfortable, even for special occasions.

  
  

4. Food Flexibility 🍽️

Traditional festive meals aren’t for everyone.

It’s okay to:

• Offer familiar foods alongside festive dishes.

• Avoid pressure to try new foods - choice matters.

  
  

5. Social Time in Small Steps 👫

Big gatherings can feel intense.

Support your child by:

• Planning shorter visits.

• Having a signal they can use if they need a break.

• Letting them join in at their own pace.

  
  

6. Talk About Feelings 💬

The festive season can bring mixed emotions.

Encourage:

• Open conversations about what they enjoy and what feels hard.

• Using emotion cards or visuals if words are tricky.

  
  

7. Focus on Fun, Not Perfection 🎨

Celebrate in ways that feel right for your family.

Whether that’s:

• Watching a favourite film.

• Doing crafts together.

• Having a quiet day with cosy blankets.

  
  

8. Plan Downtime ⏰

Busy days need balance.

Make sure to:

• Schedule quiet time after events.

• Include activities that help your child feel calm, like reading or drawing.

  
  

9. Manage Sensory Overload 🎶

Music, lights, and crowds can be too much.

Try:

• Turning down volume or switching off flashing lights.

• Visiting shops at quieter times.

• Carrying a “comfort kit” with calming items.

  
  

10. Celebrate Their Way ❤️

There’s no one “right” way to enjoy the festive season.

• Ask what traditions matter most to them.

• Create new ones together that feel safe and fun.

Remember:

Every child is different.

What matters most is creating a space where they feel safe, understood, and included.

Small adjustments can make a big difference.