Understanding Eye Contact and Neurodivergence 👀

Eye contact is often seen as a sign of confidence, honesty, and attentiveness.

But for many neurodivergent people, including those with autism, ADHD, Tourette’s, or other conditions, making eye contact can feel uncomfortable, overwhelming, or even physically painful.

Why Eye Contact Can Be Difficult

For neurodivergent individuals, eye contact isn’t just about looking at someone’s face. It can mean:

• Sensory overload: Faces contain a lot of visual and emotional information. Processing this while trying to listen can be exhausting.

• Distraction: Looking into someone’s eyes can make it harder to focus on their words. Many people find they listen better when they’re not forced to make eye contact.

• Social pressure: Eye contact is often treated as a “rule,” which can make interactions feel stressful instead of natural.

  
  

What Eye Contact Doesn’t Mean

It’s important to remember:

• Not making eye contact does not mean someone isn’t listening. Avoiding eye contact can help them concentrate better.

• It’s not a lack of respect or interest. People show connection in many different ways, through words, body language, or simply by being present.

• It’s not something that should be forced. Forcing eye contact can create anxiety and reduce genuine communication and connection.

  
  

Better Ways to Support Communication

Instead of insisting on eye contact, try:

• Allowing flexibility: Let people communicate in the way that feels most natural.

• Looking at shared focus points: For example, talking while walking, drawing, or looking at an object together can ease pressure.

• Valuing active listening: Notice nods, verbal responses, or gestures as signs of engagement.

  
  

At NEST, we believe communication should feel safe and inclusive. Eye contact isn’t the only way to connect; understanding and respect go much further.